Our beloved son, Adam - 24/01/69 - 26/01/05

Here is the journal he wished to leave you with.

"We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no-one can take for or spare us."
Marcel Proust

My life has been an extrodinary experience filled with ups and downs, but it is the beauty of love that made my life what it is. Firstly it started with the love of myself, once I found that I was worthy of my own love then I opened the door to allowing others to love me as well.

I firmly believe that to have light, love and happiness in your life you must find these in yourself. I was born a pessimist but through my journey I became an optimist.

I have an amazing family who has always been at my side. I have the love of an amazing woman, who is probably tapping her foot at heavens gate and will rouse on me for being late. "But honey, I couldn't miss the festival of my birth."
That will be her idea of heaven, having something to rib me about for eternity. Actually, it's my idea too. I've got enough excuses to last eternity as well.

I have had a wonderful journey and I have learnt what I needed to. I leave with no regrets and am proud of the life I lead and the person I am.

The dA family I have here are precious to me and for you I leave this parting message, when you are down come here to this journal entry and know there is an angel watching over you, (Can't wait to get those wings, but they can keep the harp) when you need me call my name and I'll come and tickle you my wings to make you laugh.

Good luck on your journey - believe in yourselves, because I do.

Love and happiness

Adam


To all of Adam's friends,

Anne and I (Bob) thought it was important for you to know how Adam fought till the end. As in all his life his humour was his greatest weapon against the darkest of times. He wore a t-shirt that read " SAVE HOOTERS - Fight breast cancer today"
in hospital. Each morning the doctor would arrive and say "You're still here?" Adam's reply was always " Lick me bitch"
to which they would both laugh uproariously. Anne and I don't really understand that one but his laughter is contagious.

As much as his strength and courage motivate us to look for a brighter day, I cannot help but feel that a great light has gone out and the world is a poorer place for it.

We will be having a service for Adam in Byron Bay so he may rest with Suzana. They will be together once more as they should be.

We will take all notes you wish to send with us to the service.

Thank you to all that have enriched our son's life.

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My name is Jack and I'm Adam's best friend. Bob and Anne have asked me to update all here with news of his service.

You may not know this about him but Adam is a control freak. I say this with love and a smile because I have so often said this to him. He planned his own funeral, I guess knowing it was coming helped him do this.

We were treated to a short film of the life and times of Lambchop that has the best soundtrack.

It started with Adam's early years with his family. The love shone through in all the images. He spoke of the love he had and recieved from his family and how that would become the cornerstone of his life.
Song - Gigantic - Pixies

Then we witnessed his teenage years. A collection of rockabilly's and Vespa's and some seriously dubious choices in haircuts and wardrobes selections.
Song- Aloha Steve and Dano - Radio Birdmen

Then came his Twenties, a time of huge personal growth. He spoke of his striggle to find his own self love and the peace he found when he finally admitted he was worthy of his own love.
Song - Higher Ground - Red Hot Chilli Peppers.

Next was a beautiful tribute to his marriage with Suzana (Babydoll), a love to last the ages. You've never seen two people so in love and so suited for each other. Even when they were "discussing" something the love was always there.
Song - Throw Your Arms Around Me - Hunters and Collectors

We were then introduced to his dA family. The images of Avatars and his favourite images of his friends with Adam telling us about how much you all helped him when he lost Suzana.
Song - I See You Baby - Groove Armada

Finally the video overlaid images of all parts from his life and how they all came together for him. And finally a message from him - "Mourn not the time lost but celebrate the time shared"
Song - I Feel Love - Donna Summer. Eric Morrillo Mix.

He had me chasing everywhere for those songs. Now I know why.

Then after we had spread his ashes with Suzana's, we had to tell our favourite Adam story. Even at his funeral, the cheeky bastard had us laughing through our tears.
(His ashes are now with Suzana's in Byron Bay.)

From my point of view, it's hard to put into words what I'm feeling now but maybe this will explain. At first I agreed with Bob when he said "As much as his strength and courage motivate us to look for a brighter day, I cannot help but feel that a great light has gone out and the world is a poorer place for it." but in retrospect I think that the world is a richer place for having had him in it.

He was my friend, my mentor and hero. If I can share this story with you, because I think it sums up what he was all about. After we had spread Suzana's ashes I was very worried as to how he might react. He had been so busy with the arrangements and looking after everyone else that I guess I was waiting for it all to come "crashing down". He had been standing on the cliff looking over the ocean by himself and I went to see how he was. He had tears in his eyes and very quietly he said to me "You know you can get sunburnt on a cloudy day? Just goes to prove that even though you can't see it, there's always sunsine in your life" Gutsiest thing I ever saw anyone do.

Thank you on behalf of Bob and Anne for the amazing support from you all. It's greatly appreciated.

Please see 's page. In his true spirit, he wanted no flowers or cards sent but wanted to make donations to ^ Moonbeam13 work to raise money for research into Breast Cancer.

Jack